The longer I work with customers the more I realise that most of us who suffer from food are just hurting in some way and want to find love/comfort. We might have a very loving relationship with someone else but if we do not love ourselves there’s something missing and we use food to fill the gap. For others it could be alcohol, drugs, gambling or smoking.
However food seems to be the most common since it is quick and simple, not hurting anyone else and can be easily hidden. Unfortunately however, we just feel good for a split second with the first taste, then the guilt sets in, we feel uneasy and begin to beat ourselves up which only leads to more eating or bingeing. Unfortunately eating food just keeps the emotion inside of us. Instead of confronting our issues, we over eat which only creates further problems.
The only time our body really wants food is when it is physically hungry. So if we eat for emotional reasons, it doesn’t work, because our body doesn’t want food, it wants comfort in another way. We keep eating waiting for that magical remedy that never comes.
By learning how to eat”naturally” we are reconnecting with our body’s natural instincts of hunger and satisfaction. This will then fill the physical need and enable us to find positive, empowering things that will serve the emotional need. The wonderful thing about natural eating is that it’s based on awareness. As soon as you are conscious of your habits/triggers about food you can make a different option.
The key is to honor your emotions, notice that you are sad or lonely or stressed out. Sometimes a good cry is the response as this enables you to get the emotion out of your body. Other ways of doing this is to laugh, sing, shout or do something physical like running, biking or martial arts. Then you can think clearly and find that positive thing that will comfort you and move forward.
You will discover that it is based around certain events and activities which have led to negative habits. Because once you are aware of what you are doing you can find a way to avoid those triggers and make distinct positive decisions.
I am a wife and mother who has recovered from 20 years of food and weight related problems. I used to binge on food uncontrollably and then exercise excessively to get rid of it. This enabled me to tap in to my natural instincts of hunger and satisfaction to develop a healthy relationship with food.